Nothing like a holiday to remind you of how unattached you are. The first year of my separation was difficult, and days like these only emphasized it. Especially since a week later, on the 21st, is my wedding anniversary. But you know what? I'm not letting a holiday ruin my day. No sir, I was determined to focus on the positive, not the negative. Easier said than done, huh?
Our language is limited when it comes to the word "love". We expect it to explain the feeling we have towards our family, our friends, our spouse, our children, and our favorite food. In the Greek language, there are several words that are used in reference to love. Phileo love is affection towards friends, people that aren't related but who feel a sort of unity in brotherhood. It's where we get Philadelphia from, the city of brotherly love. It also denotes those things that we prefer or cherish, like foods, movies, clothes, styles of music, etc. There is Agape love, which is unconditional. It's the kind of love parents have for their children, the kind of love God has for us. And then there's Eros, which is where we get the word erotic. It's romantic love, love between a husband and wife. It's the one we immediately associate with Valentine's Day. But it doesn't have to be that way. Valentine's Day can be a day about any type of love. There's no reason to limit ourselves. I kept that in mind for today.
First thing this morning I prepared a menu plan for the next couple of weeks. It was important that I pick meals that are quick to make, or that can be made in the crock pot. That way I wouldn't be stuck in the kitchen cooking, then rushing to get out the door. I think I came up with a good variety that we all love and I can whip up in less than 45 minutes. I then got dressed in a long sleeved shirt, jeans, sneakers, and a white denim jacket. Not the typical South Florida type outfit, but it's been mighty cold here! We got some rain a few days ago, and since then the temps have taken a dip: it was 46 degrees this morning, but it felt like 41 thanks to the wind chill. For a Floridian, that's downright freezing! The temperatures got up to the mid 60's in the afternoon, but it still felt pretty chilly, even with the sun out. I bundled up accordingly. I also used my Complexion Rescue as foundation, and I am loving it! At first I wasn't sure I was impressed with it; it worked nicely under my liquid foundation but I couldn't see myself using it alone. With some experimenting I found the secret to making it look like a flawless face - mineral veil. Mineral veil is Bare Mineral's loose translucent powder. I set the Complexion Rescue with mineral veil, then add a little bronzer, blush, quick eye shadow and liner, mascara and lip gloss, and in less than 10 minutes I'm heading out the door looking amazing!
I'm still trying to shop for groceries every two weeks instead of weekly, and keeping to a budget of $300 or under for the whole two weeks. I know, not an easy feat with prices being what they are. I'd already gone to Winn Dixie yesterday and gotten my meats, along with a bunch of produce and canned goods. I'd spent $104.58, so I had about $200 left to spend. I went to Walmart first. I had to buy a few food items, including Molly's dog food which includes both wet and dry, and I needed some toiletries (toothpaste, deodorant, etc). Despite getting a few items not typically on the grocery list, I spent $104.92, which I thought was eerily close to what I'd spent the day before. From there I went to Costco for the bigger items: toilet paper, olive oil, dog biscuits, bacon (yes, we eat a lot of bacon. Don't judge me). The total spent there was $58.99. So all in all I spent $268.49, $31.51 under budget. Yay me!
Of course I was quickly going to spend my savings :P. I wanted to take advantage of the pants sale at NY and Company to get some work appropriate pants. I once owned a large amount of dress pants which I used for work; being a purchasing manager meant I had to meet with vendors on a weekly basis, and while jeans were allowed, they weren't a professional look for me, so I dressed in skirts and pants most days. About a year after I stopped working, I got rid of all but two pairs of dress pants. It made no sense to keep a bunch of clothes that I wasn't wearing, and I was not wearing dress pants at all. The two pairs I kept in case it got cold out (like this winter) so I wouldn't have to go to church in a dress or jeans. Now, however, I'll be in an office where pretty much everyone is in dress pants or Docker style pants - no jeans allowed. Yes, I can wear a skirt, and I may occasionally, but the school gives us button down shirts with the school logo, and I don't know that those will look very nice with skirts. I got a couple pairs, one in navy blue that almost looks like dressy jeans but they aren't denim, and the other pair in brown. Nice neutral colors that'll go with anything. Then I looked for a dress. My daughter's college roommate's brother (did you get all that?) is getting married at the end of the month, and I need a dress that is dressy but not formal (that's what her mom said). So I'm looking for something that is pretty and wearable, classic and wedding appropriate. There's a catch, though: it can't look like the dress my daughter will be wearing, a navy blue lace dress. Okay, not a problem. I figured I'd find something I liked, since NY & Company is my favorite store. And I did find a dress I liked. It's a lace dress, very similar in style to my daughter's dress, except it's in teal, which means it isn't the same. That's what I told her, anyway. She ain't buying it.
We went to several other stores, and I quickly spotted a trend. Lace dresses are all the rave. They are everywhere, and most of them are navy blue or orange. Orange is a lovely color, just not on me. I can wear peach, but bright orange washes me out and makes my skin look yellow. Jaundice is not an attractive look, let me tell you. I left the mall with just the pants. I'm wondering if I'll find anything I like. I have a dress that's been in my closet for, oh, I'd say at maybe 8 years? It's tight up on top but I can manage to get it on. If I can't find anything else, that's what I'll have to wear. I'll just eat very light, and breathe minimally.
As a Valentine's Day gift, my daughter bought Domino's pizza. I know many people like Domino's pizza. Not me. I'm a native New Yorker. I know what pizza is supposed to taste like, and it's not supposed to taste like Domino's pizza. I've told my children plenty of times that Domino's sauce is the worst I've ever tasted. They know I can't stand it, but my daughter had a coupon, and it was a sweet gesture, so I said okay, and I ate the faux pizza for my daughter's sake. I know I make it hard for her. She was saying how I won't eat Pizza Hut pizza because it's too greasy (it gives me a stomachache it's so bad), and I won't eat Papa John's either (seriously, the box it comes in probably tastes better). The only pizza I can stomach is Little Caesars, because it's only $5 so I feel like I'm getting my money's worth. There's not much I miss from my days in New York, but New York style pizza is definitely at the top of that short list.
So that's it for my day. Maybe not the most "romantic" Valentine's Day, but still filled with love, and that's what matters, right? Hope everyone's day was filled with love. God bless ya'll.
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